DISSATISFIED: GETTING WHERE YOU WANT TO BE
what do you relate to on this list?
- Feeling lost
- Feeling like you're only keeping up with your life, not leading it
- Not enough time to fit it all in
- Interpersonal issues (communication, boundary setting and maintenance, self-esteem/self-worth, asking for help, saying no, for example)
- Difficulty with tough decisions
- Problems with focus
- Need for self-care
- Difficulty with a transition (retirement, job change, role change, relationship change, for example)
- Work/life out of balance
- Driven by “shoulds”
These are the things that get in the way of us living the life we want, and if we can find a way around them, we can live better.
how to go at it
Many things can get in the way of us feeling we are living to our potential, but there is generally a way through or around each of them.
While the things that will improve our lives are often hard, they are also often simple. An outside perspective can help sort through what isn't working for us, and help identify the "lead domino" that will have the most impact and be the most doable.
case study: kathie
Recently retired, Kathie came in overly stressed and generally not happy, but also not sure what needed to change.
It became apparent that her situation, which involved putting a great deal of time and resources into her mother's care, and negotiating difficult family dynamics, was leaving her no time to refuel.
We worked on how to communicate her and her mother's needs to her family, how to set boundaries and limits on what she did, when, and for who. We developed time management strategies leaving space for self-care, and we worked on increasing her self-worth.
Kathie's changes made her much more in control of her life, rather than always responding to the needs of others.
“Before meeting with Emma I would always give up ‘my time’, leaving me with none for myself. That does not happen now! Life is balanced now!”